Dominatrix Training

Over the years, I have had countless inquiries from women (and girls) asking for Mistress or Dominatrix training. I have even been published in EYE Magazine about it @: http://www.eyeweekly.com/fun/lovebites/article/14779 .

To view My exclusive one-on-one Dominatrix Training Program Syllabus, go to: http://www.canadiandomination.com/mentoring.html ... but if you are really committed towards being *accepted* into My Dominatrix Training program, read this article before going to My Dominatrix Training webpage...

Presumably because of the current economic crisis, I have received as many inquires in the past few months as I have in the past 20 years. If I am going to train a want-to-be Dominatrix, she must have a very high quality of personality, aptitude, intelligence, and of course beauty. If I think she's "Got It", I offer theoretical and practical training, in addition to My incredibly valuable experience, wisdom and skills. In My opinion, to train as a Dominatrix requires at least 40 hrs of "in-class" theory (from My Advanced Mistress Training Programme), before minimum several weeks-months of practical training. Most importantly, to be a good Domme requires a strong understanding and control of the submissive, but mostly a strong understanding and control of one's self. When those inquiring about Dominatrix Training learn about the effort and committment (i.e., work) involved in learning BDSM, most change their mind. If you learn a new skill in an ethical, intelligent and sincere manner, it can not only improve the quality of other's lives, but most importantly you can improve the quality of your own life.

Why should a good Domme candidate have real personality, aptitude, intelligence and beauty? Beauty can bring a man to his knees, but it won't keep him there. A great personality is the first must-have quality, as without this, she will have neither the fortitude to last as a Domme, or the skills necessary to read and connect with her supplicants. (What is known as "E.Q.") A whole book can be written on the personality skills necessary to be a good Domme, but needless to say--being a complete bitch is the exact opposite of what a good Domme is. An aptitude for Domination is essentially an inate personality trait; one can learn the science of Domination, but not the art of being a real Domme. A good Domina is comfortable with and enjoys taking control of others in a respectful and empathetic manner. She doesn't have to be an intellectual, but it is essential that the Domina Trainee has a high capability to learn, process and enact wise decisions. Excellent improvisational skills are an important attribute, as is an excellent knowledge of BDSM techniques, physiology, human behaviour, minimal psychology, and legal/business knowledge. As for beauty--base physical attributes can be inherited, faked or bought. It takes genuine inner beauty to know the strength and power of being a true Dominatrix.

In My opinion, to be a good Domina takes at least 40 hours of theoretical skills training in several areas: 1) The basics of Behavioural Analysis, minimal psycological theory, 2) Dangerous or Maladaptive Client Behaviours, 3) The Outline of a Typical Session, 4) Fetishes, Activities & Techniques, 5) Advanced Medical Play, and last but not least, 6) Legal and Business Aspects & Tricks of the Trade. Once a good understanding of these areas has been reached, then the training may progress to real sessions, where the Mistress Trainee observes (and when ready), participates in scenes with the Mentor Mistress and a lucky supplicant. (This is where theory is transformed into practical and applied knowledge.) Depending on the skill and aptitude of the new Domina, she may require at least 4, to as many as 8 varied and increasingly complicated Double-Mistress sessions before she is ready to Dominate a submissive on her own. Safety techniques and boundaries are especially highlighted.

Surprisingly, of great importance in being a good Dominatrix is a deep understanding, acceptance and respect for your male supplicants. These daring male souls that venture into our world of BDSM, Fetish & Fantasy may be looking for many different things; but mostly, our supplicants are looking to give up their power and control to a Strong, Beautiful and Powerful Woman. I don't care to suppose (here) if a part-time Domme is better or worse than a "Lifestyle Domme", but you better have a genuine care and compassion for the men that offer themselves up to you at their most vulnerable. If a potential Dominatrix has a dislike for men, I suggest they do not venture into an area that deals almost exclusively with the needs, fantasies, predilictions (and even sometimes, the neuroses) of men. Men do not generally present themselves perfectly trusting, trained and kneeling at your door with a very generous slave contract in their mouths, Training a supplicant takes much skill, effort, and commitment by a strong, sincerely Dominant Woman. And to deserve the trust and vulnerabilty of Her supplicant, She must have a character of integrity, consistancy and commitment.

Sadly, some women think that Domination is a good thing to get into, because of the following misconceptions: "The money is great!" "I can work when I want!" "I can party as much as I want now!" "I can get the most for the least effort!" "I can't stick to anything else, but this will be different!" Being a good Domina is very hard work. (As is achieving anything of value.) The compensation can be good, but when calculated against the expense of wardrobe (including self-maintenace issues such as pedicures, manicures, hair, skin, depilation, makeup, etc), sanitation and sterilization equipment and procedures, premium travel (for safety and timeliness issues), equipment, furniture, surroundings and atmosphere (candles/music/comfort) etc etc etc, then the compensation ratio drops considerably off. As well, most Dominas are not seeing supplicants every day, let alone all day. There is a lot of down time between sessions. (And there should be, in order to provide better quality--ie, sincere and creative--scenes). Often, a Dominatrix's schedule is not her own. Sorry fellas--We are not Mistresses of The Universe--We can not control the trivialities of life to the point where we are: lounging in lingerie, eating imported chocolates, and sipping Champagne, whilst multiple slaves cater to our needs and whims all day and night...Within reason, when (session) opportunities arrive, the opportunies must be grabbed. Our supplicant's schedules are far less flexible than ours, so we must compromise. As for non-stop partying--any scenes must be undertaken in a sober state, and besides--partying can wear out your mind, body and soul much faster than the natural age process. It takes genuine, concentrated, consistant effort to build a solid supplicant-base, and only a few weeks of sloth to destroy it irrevocably (if not sooner in this age of information and online reviews...) If a potential Dominatrix does not have the self-discipline, self-knowledge, or personal character to apply themselves to any aspect of their life, then becoming a fairweather Dominatrix will only temporarily and superficially improve the quality of their life, and give nothing to those seeking a bit of fun and escape though connecting with a quality Domina.


Because the new Dominas will ply their skills through The Toronto Power Exchange, I have not demanded payment for many hours of Tutoring and Mentoring. Unfortunately, the very few Mistress Trainees that have passed My strict prerequisites have not lasted more than a few months in the incredibly difficult field of being a (good) Dominatrix. (Just look at the internet to see how fast almost all new Dominatrixes come and go.) In the past, I had stopped offering Dominatrix Training because My generosity, time and wisdom was being exploited. But then, I realized that a good Domme should give back to Her community, and in order to do this in a fair and non-exploitative manner, My effort and experience must be reasonably compensated for, just as any other learned Professional disseminates their skills to students. But remember: if you want to learn from a genuine Top Domme, and get an excellent, solid foundation in a highly satisfying, rewarding, exciting and empowering pastime--then reciprocal compensation, (just as in a consensual power exchange) is expected and demanded.

So, if after all this, you think you have what it takes to be a great Dominatrix; contact Me at The Toronto Power Exchange via: http://www.canadiandomination.com/ .
It is BEST to read My whole website before inquiring about Dominatrix Training, but if you have serious instant gratification issues, go straight to: http://www.canadiandomination.com/mentoring.html
Just a warning: I do not accept everyone into My Dominatrix Training Program, and to even be considered, one must answer a 10 point Questionaire.

Ms Zea, Owner of The Toronto Power Exchange