A Penitents Tale (by Miss Poison's slave martha)

Again, as always, the eternal hours of the endless day preceding our session were anxious, nervous, and exhilarating. Again, the muddle of confused, chaotic thought that was my mind was an impenetrable heart of darkness. Arriving, at last, i found myself twenty minutes too early to venture up. Somehow i managed through those long minutes. Passing up that long stairway, i came at last to that door, and knocking, was admitted to that magical world inside.

i was directed by the beautiful Mistress Poison down the hall to the room in which our meetings customarily took place. Accepting a token gift from her humble, and humbled, servant, Mistress Poison instructed me to dress and await Her return. Most of my outfit, save skirt, heels, and earrings, I already wore beneath my street clothes. My entire outfit consisted of a white cotton tee with some lace around the collar, a white bra, garter belt, panties, and neutral stockings.

Mistress Poison, re-entering the room, inspected the outfit and gave Her approval to the skirt (a flared, knee-length blue with a white floral pattern) and undergarments, with the exception of the hosiery, which she indicated for future reference should be either white or black, and most definitely not the beige i bore. She instructed me to kneel on the bench and to then place my hands together and lower them and my nose to the level of the bench. Mistress Poison procured a length of rope which she proceeded to use to very expertly and securely restrain my feet and ankles. i was quite taken by Her exquisite work in this regard, as the resulting bond was very firm, yet not in the least part cutting.

Mistress Poison seated her beauteous being upon the bench and directed me to lay across her lap. i obeyed, wriggling forward and prostrating myself, face down, across Her lap. My hands were quickly cuffed behind my back and a blindfold and gag followed. Mistress Poison pointed out that in my role as Her slave, Her servant, Her toy, i would only speak in response to a question asked, and should i wish to speak otherwise i would first obtain Her permission. Following these directives, Mistress Poison began a spanking. A gentle slapping hinted at the firmness that was to follow. The spanking progressed, escalated, with three paddling implements, slapping and pinching gradually warming my backside to a rosy, glowing heat. At times was the administration of this punishment so intense that i found myself near to tears. The sensation, inducing such an ecstasy of pain, of acute sensuality. i struggled against my bindings: to no avail i knew, but it seemed my only recourse. Mistress Poison, throughout this ordeal, continued to remind me of my place ~ to be seen and not heard, to act in the capacity of Her servant, and not in the pursuit of my own dirty little fantasies. On the verge of tears was i finally released from this punishment.

Leaving my feet bound, Mistress Poison released my hands and removed my gag. i had created quite a slobbering mess about the gag and upon the bench. This untidiness Mistress Poison allowed me to undo by providing supplies with which i was permitted to wipe clean the benches and the three paddles that moments earlier had been tantalizing my backside. Commanding me to pick up the gag, Mistress Poison, attaching a leash to my collared neck, led me, crawling, across the room where i was instructed to place the gag into the bathtub. i was then led to a small rug where i was instructed to lie down. The bindings restraining my feet were removed, and, using the same rope, Mistress Poison suspended my legs and ass into the air and tied them off to the cross-braces that towered overtop my head. Inverted, and asked how this particular position felt, i replied "helpless." A belt was procured and used to administer a strapping to my inner thighs -- a most excruciating torture. At each stroke i begged for mercy and apologized more and more profusely, and loudly, for my previous transgressions. Hauling me up higher in a position that i was able to touch myself, Mistress Poison poised herself over top of the line formed from my face, on the ground, through my crotch and up between my suspended legs. i touched myself, thanking Her for Her efforts in educating such a poor serving girl, and continuing my string of apologies. She began spitting upon my balls, my cock, and my thighs. i thanked Her again, and, encouraged, opened my mouth, ready to receive my juices and Her saliva. More spit followed, landing on my balls, cock, thighs, face, and mouth.... i held myself, not letting my pleasure explode... After what seemed a torturously long age, i made sure to catch my mess in my mouth ... milking as much as i could, catching most of it in my cock-hungry mouth.

Mistress Poison expressed Her pleasure with my performance, and commended me on my aim (as my mouth had caught the brunt of the outpouring). After graciously lowering me back down to the floor, i was permitted to clean up and dress.

Miss Poison's slave's Story (written Miss Poison's slave peter)

When I saw the picture of Miss Poison, I felt that I had to meet Her In person, though, She was far more beautiful than I had imagined. " I'm well aware that I am a beautiful young woman, but don't forget that you are here to serve Me, and that your submissiveness is the only reason that you are permitted in My presence."

She required me to follow two steps behind Her to the dungeon. Other Mistresses had always had me undress before the session, but Miss Poison ordered me to hold still and She undressed me Herself as I stood meekly before Her. She pushed me down to the floor as soon as I was naked, and She stepped on my testicles with Her stiletto heels, laughing as She ground the tip painfully into my groin. My penis was immediately erect and dripping, and Miss Poison collected the drip with her spike heel and forced me to lick it off Her shoe. There was something so sensual and erotic about Her every move, just the confident manner in which She carried Herself and Her remarkable beauty made me realize that I was in for the session of my life.

" I see that you are well-trained, slave, but that doesn't mean that things are going to be easy for you. I want you to understand that very shortly you are going to be tested to the limits of your pain endurance, but first you will bring pleasure to Me. I want you to begin by licking the bottom of My shoe, I want you to clean every square inch of it with your tongue." Miss Poison had a wraparound strap on Her shoe which She directed Me to undo with my teeth. "Pay attention, slave, because you will be required to put my shoes back on when you are done with my foot massage, and most slaves are not clever enough to figure out the proper sequence to get it buckled." Miss Poison was wearing fishnet stockings and She began putting Her toes in my mouth. "I want you to suck on My toes like you would suck on a cock, slave, I want you to give every one of My toes perfect blowjob, because it amuses Me."

Mistress Poison ordered me to sit up straight, and she attached steel-toothed clamps to my nipples, and held the chain taut. "The harder I pull on your nipples, slave, the harder I want you to massage My feet. I want you to work your thumb into the ball of My feet." She tugged on my nipples cruelly and stomped on my balls with Her other foot, laughing all the while as I struggled to concentrate on giving Her the best foot massage possible. "Don't think about your pain. slave, think about My pleasure. ; I enjoy seeing you suffer, and it isn't going to get any easier." She was so beautiful and sexy that I felt stunned to be at Her feet, serving Her. I could see that She was enjoying Herself, and I felt proud that She found me to be an entertaining slave. My cock was dripping more and more, and She made me lick up every drop off Her shoe.

When one foot was rubbed and kissed and adored to Her satisfaction, She ordered me to put the shoe back on, and it was tricky, but I figured it out as I had taken Her orders very seriously and I knew She would be disappointed if I failed to fasten it properly on the first try. She tightened my nipple clamps and ordered me to do an even better job on Her right foot than I had on Her left, even though the pain was getting more intense and She was putting much of Her weight directly on my testicles. I had never been at the foot of such a sexy Mistress and I was determined to be as obedient and submissive as She demanded, as She seemed to be having fun training me. Miss Poison inserted Her entire foot in my mouth and held my head against the floor while She kicked at my cock and balls with Her other foot.

When She was satisfied with Her foot massage, She snapped a collar around my neck and dragged me across the floor to a rack full of various implements of torture and discipline. "I want you to pick two items for your discipline, slave, which will begin very soon. Pick them up in your mouth, and crawl over to the bondage horse." I selected a riding crop and a leather strap and obeyed Her order as She led me by my leash across the dungeon floor on my hands and knees.and yanked me up off the floor and onto my back on the bondage horse. "Spread your legs as wide as possible, slave, I want your cock and balls to be fully exposed and vulnerable"

Within moments I was restrained in inescapable bondage. "Try to get away slave, try as hard as you can!" I struggled mightily, but there was no escape, I was at Her mercy, (and loving every minute of it.) Miss Poison took a moment to admire Her work and laugh at my predicament, spread-eagled on Her bondage horse, with my fully erect cock: an easy target for Her riding crop. With much amusement She began whipping me all over my body with the riding crop while I continued to hold the leather strap in my teeth. "Aren't you going to thank your Mistress, slave?"

With every blow I shouted "Thank You Mistress Poison!!" until they became too rapid for me to keep up with Her. She paused, putting the clamps back on my nipples, and lighting a red candle which She placed on my chest. She put the crop in my mouth and began beating my cock and balls with the strap.

"Don't move, or you'll knock the candle over, slave! Don't forget to thank your Mistress!!" She intensified Her whipping until I was ecstatic with pain and my excitement exploded over her leather strap, which She made me swallow and lick off until the strap was clean. She then took the candle, which was a short thick design with a large pool of melted wax in the center around the wick, and poured the wax on my chest in the shape of a P. When She released me She had me empty her garbage containers, bag it up, and take it out to the street. I returned a week later for a second mind-blowing session before I left Toronto for my home in the United States, and I have never stopped dreaming of the awesome and beautiful Miss Poison, and how She trained me in the two most perfect sessions of my life. I have served many beautiful Mistresses but Miss Poison remains the most talented and the most beautiful among them, with the special attribute that She seemed to truly enjoy the session as well, which for me makes the time spent serving Her even more meaningful. Thank You, Mistress Poison.

Sex and the Professional Dominatrix

PLEASE READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE BEFORE YOU JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS!

For My entire ten years as a Pro Dom, I have been debating the reasons for and against having sex with My submissive male visitors. I have committed Myself to bring up the issue in this public forum, based on the pro's and con's of a Female Professional Dominant and Her male submissive visitor engaging (or not) in intimate sexual relations on a professional basis. I do not intend to say that sex should or should not take place, I only hope to explore all points for and against. We can all make our own safe, sane and consensual decisions.

What is sex? What is sex to a Female Dominant, and what is sex to a male submissive? For O/our intents and purposes, I will only define sex within this specific S/M context. Based on how We are made, sex for a Female is generally internal, emotional, and invasive, while being an expression of vulnerability and intimacy. Sex for a man is mainly external, physical and penetration, as well as being a show of strength and power.

The specific sex acts that can take place within an S/M scene are "bodyworship" (oral-genital skin-to-skin contact); hand or mouth contact of any part of a Mistresses' clothed or unclothed body, including Her breasts, Her cleavage, Her pubic area, Her outer vagina, Her inner vagina, Her thighs, or any other (not necessarily) sexual part of Her body. A male submissive may also enter a Mistresses' body (via Her vagina, anus or mouth) with his penis, tongue, hand, finger or any other foreign object She may have in Her dungeon or bedroom, such as a dildo or butt-plug, or anything longer than it is wide. If the male submissive is well behaved and lucky enough, it is not unheard of for the Mistress to offer "assisted release", where She manually or orally pleasures the mans' penis or asshole with Her own body, or maybe a vibrator or any other tool She is prepared with. (New variations emerge daily, including "foot jobs"...)

Have you experienced any of the above acts within your Mistress/sub relationship? Or not ? Have you ever questioned why or why not? Well, let's stop thinking with our groins, and start thinking with our brains. (The brain is the largest sexual organ.)


There are a few reasons why sex might happen in an S/M scene between a Domina and a (male) sub. The main reason is that a Dominant Woman should do whatever She wants to do, whenever She wants to do it. Providing, of course, that all players safely and sanely consent to the activities that may take place.

Professional Domination does fall into the business category of the "Sex Industry". We are providing a sensual, (although not necessarily sexual) service. If the fantasy or fetish of the male submissive involves sexual (as opposed to sensual) gratification, and if the Dom agrees to providing this kind of service during the negotiations, both the Dom and the sub could benefit from this arrangement.

A potential visitor called Me the other day stating he has a "cunt fetish". After my laughter stopped, I informed him that all men have a cunt fetish, (as do most Lesbians!) If his fantasy involves being smothered with a Womans' breasts, or suffocation with a panty-clad (or naked) cunt, or strangulation with a powerful Womans' thighs, it is highly possible he will be able to find a Pro Dom willing to provide that kind of service.

Some submissive men believe that a Woman cannot enjoy a scene without sexual gratification, (eg. An orgasm or a very well faked one), therefore they enjoy "orally pleasing a Mistress". Some bottoms get a thrill out of "degrading" themselves by cleaning the Mistresses' moist fragrant pussy, or freshening up Her pungent asshole with their eager tongues. I personally do not think of the sub as degrading themselves, but as being greatly honoured and rewarded by that intimate pleasure. But, I am the last person to judge ones' perversions. It's a sick world! (Thank Goddess.)


It is my hope that if people are enjoying these activities, they are practising saf(er) sex. An attractive Woman who is sexually available to anyone with enough money has probably been with many more sexual partners then a Woman who is not employed through the sex industry. Realistically, She has a greater chance of being in intimate contact with someone who has an S.T.D. Most professionals in the sex industry use protection, but many people do not use latex condoms and/or dental dams when they are engaging in oral sex. (Especially combined with an antiviral lubricant or spermacide that has nonoxyl 9.) These two precautions are nowhere near 99% effective against H.I.V, Herpes, or any other S.T.D. except when used properly.

If your mistress has allowed you "the greatest of honours", who else has She allowed?

Please respect yourself and your Dominant, by using complete and proper protection.

For certain Dominant Women, combining S/M and sex can be hugely financially rewarding. If the "traditional" Dominant decides to provide "full service" for Her visitorss, She can double Her wealth. , Sexual "full service" Domination starts at about $500 for the hour. This higher level was what the standard foot fetishist gave tribute for an hour of My time ten years ago. (There were as many Professional Dominatrixes in Canada then as there are in Toronto, now.)

Fully equipped, quality Domination sessions led by a safe, competent Dominas are currently going for around $275-325 for an hour, less per each additional hour. (Please consider that Our dungeon has about $100,000 worth of custom- made equipment; and a single outfit can run upwards of $500 for boots, $500 for a corset, $1000 for a bra, panties, garter, and/or a top with a skirt or pants. Please do not ask the price of this in leather or latex! This does not include makeup, hair, manicure and pedicure. The total outfit can be minimum $2000.)


Money means different things to men and Women. Generally, men equate money with power. Money brings feelings of security to Women. The reason that finances are dealt with at the beginning of a sensual exchange between men and Women is because men are subconsciously giving the power (through money) to Women, and Women need a sense of security before sharing themselves sensually. It is not surprising that some Women have decided to combine Domination and sex for money.

However, many of Us Dominant Women have chosen NOT to allow our inferior male submissives sexual intimacy. Mainly, We exist in the grey area of the Law, and providing sex for Our visitors would be too much for an archaic legal system to handle.

Women Who have all the power and sexual initiative as well?
Call the Morality Squad!

Canada's outdated sexual laws are hardly enforced on the "Johns" who frequently break them, meanwhile legally and financially penalizing the mainly poor and generally uneducated Women who are only trying to make a decent living.

Our current laws only protect the frigid and hypocritical men and women who for political, social, and personal reasons wish to impose their minority morals on the public majority.

The illegality of sex for money only increases shame and secrecy, as well as the spread of diseases.

Prostitution should be decriminalized, so we can regulate the sex trade for reasons of public health safety, and also make fee distinctions based on the quality of service.

Many European governments have successfully regulated Prostitution. But, for now, "solicitation for the purposes of sex" is illegal in Canada. The best Professional Dominants can do, is keep legally clean, and maybe one day, Our Profession will not be in such a grey legal area.

Another reason sex should not take place in a paid S/M scene is because of the health hazards explained earlier. Many of My sub male visitors visit Me because they respect their current partners,(and themselves) and wish to experience a sensual exchange of power without physically or psychologically compromising themselves. Unless you have been 100% monogamous with your partner (and they 100% in return) for ALL your sexual life, you must assume everyone you play with has every disease and S.T.D. , and play with that in mind. This is the only way to stay alive and healthy enough to continue an active sensual/sexual lifestyle.



The biggest reason to not have an intimate sexual Dominant/submissive relationship, is because such an interaction is fundamentally against the principals of a Dominant Woman's and a submissive males' exchange of power. Professional Doms are the Untouchable Goddess to sub. males. (The literal meaning of the title "Dominatrix" is Queen.) By the nature of sex, men cannot look up to a Woman who "lowers" Herself to his level for physical sexual gratification. Men equate sex with power and penetration, and Women generally equate sex with vulnerability and emotional and physical surrender, by the fact that men put their penises inside a Woman's vagina (or mouth, or anus) and inside Her body. A man naturally feels he has to be in control in most sexual exchanges, and if a man is truly submissive, he should want to give the power and control to a Superior Dominant Woman. The only reason a man would want to have sex (orally, vaginally, anally or manually) with his Mistress is if he wants to take the power back (that he previously gave his Dominatrix) at the end of T/their session. These men are uncomfortable, and unsure about their submissive nature.

Hamsters can fuck. It takes an intelligent human being to be perverted.

True S/M is not about genitalia.

Putting a cock in a cunt is not necessarily the punctuation at the end of a sexual sentence.

Real S/M is about sensually, physically, emotionally and spiritually challenging one's self.

Real S/M is not about getting off.

Personally, I have nothing against sex for money. I love going to watch gorgeous male or Female Exotic Dancers. I am passionately dedicated to My calling as a Professional Dominatrix. These three careers are considered part of the Sex Industry, but they are not the same, and should be kept completely and totally separate.

It was only a few years ago, that thanks to the perverted perserverance of a few people in the S/M Community that consensual Sadomasochistic Activities were removed from the Diagnostic Manual of Psychiatry as deviant and negative practices. Just think! Safe, Sane and Consensual S/M was considered on the same level as Paul Bernardo's and Jeffrey Dalmers' criminal activities. (Thank you, to Those who changed that outdated belief.)

Hopefully, "communication with the intent of purchasing sexual services" will be legalized soon. It will be very difficult for that to happen if the sex profession does not start treating sexual services for money as legitimately and seriously as private consensual S/M'ers treat themselves. In order for this to happen, sex must be kept separate from Professional S/M.

Currently, ANY item or activity that a SINGLE independent police officer views as "obscene", is legal cause to shut down an entire dungeon, and confiscate all of the Professional Dominas' equipment, and personal belongings if She works out of Her residence. The current obscenity laws are not clearly defined, they are vague and open to personal interpretation.

This MUST change.

If a male submissive comes to the Toronto Power Exchange, and visits with any of Our Dominas, they will be honoured and respected as subs, and We know you will revere Us as Dominants. You will be sensually entertained, challenged, and played with. We fully realize that men are largely sexually influenced, however We know that you have a mind, and spirit as well. I promise you that We will explore you as completely as you will allow and trust Us to . We will take you above and beyond a mere sexual experience, and grow and explore the world of S/M with you.

There is little better than a good animalistic fucking. I Myself have almost crossed over the slippery sexual line a couple of times, by the powerful energy that I have created with a private submissive in a scene.

However, the most meaningful and memorable time I have had, has been in a scene where there was only pure S/M. A good Pro Dom can stimulate your mind, body and spirit.

We have the creativity and intelligence to challenge and entertain you for the entire time you are in Our presence.

Your fantasies can be created with a Professional Dominatrix. After the session, you can use the reality of your scene however you wish. Sex with your Dominatrix would destroy your fantasy.

The Astrological submissive

As promised; here is My opinion of the male deviants' (sub/fetishist/masochist) astrological characteristics. To keep it simple, I have chosen to the sun or main sign to analyse the 12 different personality types. Only one little disclaimer; some of you may actually present your secondary or even tertiary astrological characteristics to A Professional Dominatrix when you play with Her. It doesn't matter; in most cases your main sign will be an adequate description, if not, freely choose the one (or ones) that are closest to your submissive/fetishist/masochist personality. I suggest that all twelve of the personality types are thoughtfully considered, as each have points of interest that can be applied to anyone, regardless of your sun-sign or client "type".

The "Pushy Bottom" Client; Aries tendencies. (Also known as "topping from the bottom.") This is a controlling client who is an overachieving "Type A" personality. He is charming, enthusiastic, aggressive, bold, self-confident, articulate, adventurous, organised, and very masculine. He is also demanding, insensitive, impatient, manipulative, egotistical, and very dominant. He is in a constant personal struggle with his submissive tendencies, and many Dommes are tempted to dismiss this man as a "lazy top"; it is not that simple. This type of client is rarely aware of his breach in etiquette and display of bad manners; he feels that he is only making sure he "gets what he pays for", and thinks that giving over control means he is weak, and less of a man. This client is not ready to embrace the contradictions within him, and to accept that a healthy human beings' personality can comprise two completely opposite characteristics. In their "everyday" life, Aries are very straightforward, but in their fantasy life they are very unorthodox. They love danger and the thrill of pursuit, so they are always on the search for a "better" Mistress. (The leather is always blacker on the other side of town.) Aries clients require constant attention, consistent ego-stroking and new experiences to conquer. They are sensually intense, quick to excite, and (often over-) eager to achieve their final (fetish/fantasy related) goal. The Aries client is prone to headaches, eye-strain, fevers, and stress-related (psychological and physical) problems. If the Aries gentleman wishes to enrich his Professional fetish and fantasy experience, he should accept his submissive side, and utterly give into the Dominant care of a confident Mistress. Each human needs to be taken care of once-in-a-while; relax and treat yourself by relinquishing all your responsibilities to a wise and experienced Professional Dominatrix.

The "Sensualist" client; Taurus disposition. This man may or may not be submissive in the truest sense--but it does not matter, as he is usually quite well-mannered in his passive search for sensuous pleasures. He is sensual, loyal, strong, magnetic, romantic, straightforward, good with people, and eager to please. The Taurus client enjoys sensuous delights such as music, candles, pillows, scents, and fine foods?although sometimes to the point of overindulgence. He can also be stubborn, insatiable, possessive, conservative, lazy, and a little materially focused. He is not one to verbalise a problem until it is too late, such as not calling his safe-word "yellow", then having to call serious "red" when their problem has gotten much bigger. Taurus clients rarely enjoy complex fantasising, heavy intellectual role-play or Dominance and submission games, they prefer to enjoy sensual pleasures on a much simpler level, such as giving the Mistress a massage, worshipping Her feet, feeding Her, (or being fed), or maybe accompanying The Mistress to the Symphony, Opera, or an expensive restaurant. The Taurus client prefers to be the passive (a "bottom"), as opposed to the "submissive" player, and they need to have the Mistress suggest new areas of fun and games. Some Taurus clients require a well-planned regime of discipline in order to curb their idle tendencies. Taurus submissives are plagued with neck, throat, and kidney problems. (Nothing a good posture collar and kidney belt can't fix though.) If the Taurus client wants to have a great time with his Mistress, he should spoil Her with the specific pleasures She enjoys. When two people deeply and honestly share an earthly experience together, a base and sensual experience can be elevated to a mystic meeting of souls.

The "Switch" client; Gemini proclivity. This is one client almost too accepting of his duality; he revels in playing the submissive as well as the Dominant. Thank Goddess there are Professional Fetish and Fantasy Switches who enjoy being Professionally Dominant and submissive; unfortunately there are not as many Pro Switches as there are Gemini/switch clients. The Gemini client is an excellent communicator, intellectual, ingenious, quick witted, the life of the party, and is a wonderful story-teller. He can also be somewhat of a gossip, restless, easily bored, quickly frustrated, seemingly unemotional, insecure, and subject to grandiosity. Being the twin sign of Gemini, he is highly contradictory. This client is more interested in talking about perversity than actually experiencing it, although he will give back as much energy as his Mistress shares with him. He loves adventure and intrigue, and will often take risks simply to avoid boredom-- rather that a true need to experience something new. He desires an intellectual Mistress with an appreciation for the bizarre who must be at least his cerebral equal, if not smarter. He tends to be sexually fickle, with multiple partners, and is often bi-sexual (in thought if not in deed.) The Gemini client may have problems with his lungs, so an environment with allergens or smoke is not recommended. He will also have problematic hands and arms, so positions where his arms are (loosely) placed lower than his heart are best for his circulation, longevity and comfort. If Mr.Gemini has an appetite for a fun and kinky time, he must be absolutely clear to his potential Pro Domme about his switch (Dominant & submissive) tendencies, regardless of his particular needs during the upcoming session. Even better, he should search for the company of an astute and experienced Professional Switch.

The "faithfully devoted" client; Cancer propensities. This is the gentleman submissive that every Pro Domme utterly cherishes, or wishes they had in their stable. Another Mistress and I have several, and it is an utter pleasure to be around them, and a joy to play with them. They always bring Us practical gifts for Us and Our Domain, and always stay much longer than they intended to in order make Our life more comfortable. Cancer submissives often become personal subs or life-time slaves to the Professional Dominatrix. The Cancer sub is loving, protective, domestic, nurturing, traditional, ritualistic, sensitive, emotionally communicative, intuitive, sentimental, diplomatic, poetic, and most of all romantic. Negatively, he is moody, easily depressed, possessive, clingy, self-focused, and he will probably be an emotional and literal packrat. His tough exterior hides a very soft and tender heart, and he will bottle up his feelings until he explodes. He may allow his irrational emotions to rule over his otherwise sensible head because of his insecure and jealous tendencies. His sensuality is reflective of his home environment, and he absolutely requires security and emotional/intimate fidelity. (Although he may play around himself, he is deeply wounded when his Mistress' personal attention is focused elsewhere.) His Mistress' desires are truly more important than satisfying his own; in fact his strongest desires are satiated by pleasing his Dominant Partners'. This submissive totally submerses himself in the fetish and fantasy lifestyle, and he is soulfully serious about his subservient position. Once the cancer submissive is secure in his environment, he is very sensually creative and extremely affectionate and loyal. He will usually have some "unresolved maternal issues" (as modern psychiatry terms it), and he does have a tendency to turn Mistress into Mommy. The cancer submissive might be easily emotionally stressed, as well as having stomach and intestinal problems, sensitive livers and diaphragms, various neuroses, emotional disorders and an occasional penchant for imagining themselves into false illnesses. However, the personal and spiritual highs the cancer submissive can journey with The lucky Dominatrix towards are immensely worth the few superficial negatives he may posses. If the cancer submissive yearns for a superior Mistress/submissive relationship, he should "lighten up", stop taking himself and his circumstances so seriously, and let his Domina lead him mind, body, and soul for some serious play.

The "Fetishist" Client; Leo leanings. Leo the lion. I was reluctant to make direct comparisons to the animals that the signs represent, but in this case it relevant. The Leo or fetishist client is on the prowl for a strong, beautiful Lioness with a purrrfect fetish wardrobe. I know one Leo gentleman client who has an entire personal wardrobe in leather, as well as his car, which is entirely outfitted and upholstered in the finest black leather. Mmm... Leo is grand, confident, generous, proud, enthusiastic, ambitious, determined, strong, fashionable, well groomed, and very handsome or striking. (Yes, they have a great mane of hair, too.) Conversely, they may be superficial, vain, egocentric, phallocentric, overbearing, lazy, self-centred, and they have the irritating habit of needing the last word or being the ultimate authority. Due to all this bravado, a Leo may occasionally experience sexual impotence, as the anxiety of living up to their own grandiose ideals of sexuality are difficult. The Leo fetishist is as impeccably groomed as they expect their Mistress to be, and She better have a huge fetish wardrobe containing every style, fabric, and colour for the Leo client to worship. It helps if the Mistress Herself is immaculately presented, with perfect makeup, thick and healthy hair, a strong and toned body, and of course long and perfectly manicured claws...I mean nails. Leo's Mistress must be very self assured, emotionally strong, confident, and utterly Dominant, as he will not submit to someone weaker than himself. Leo clients are absolutely not into degradation or humiliation, and will only try new things carefully introduced by a worthy Dominatrix if they remain the centre of attention. For a successful scene, this randy lion should seek a strongly feminine Pro Domme who enjoys lavishing flattery, ego-massage, and consistent id-reinforcement on Her fetishist play-partner, as well as being able to accept gratuitous praise and adoration with a grain of salt. Fetish and fantasy play all just a beautiful game to the fetishist/Leo client.

The Obsessive client; Virgo inclinations. Both Myself, Miss Poison and Mistress Demonika have seen gentlemen such as this; each was a different man, but each wore spotless knee-high sport-socks during their scene, one wore surgical gloves, one wore yellow dish gloves, and the third wore shoulder-length calving gloves. Each brought their own tools and supplies which were carefully pre-sterilised and wrapped, and each spent at least 20 minutes preparing the playroom(s) before the scene began. One would think that the obsessive/"neat freak" client would cause more work and stress for a Pro Domme, but he doesn't. They just have their own way of doing things, and it is no comment on The Professionals' standards of cleanliness. Virgo clients are analytical, practical, detailed, industrious, adaptable, idealistic, good at repetitive tasks, and very service oriented. They may be negative, critical, fastidious, cynical, sceptical, over-analytical, self-critical, perfectionistic, despondent, and sometimes downright picky. They have very high expectations of themselves and others, and as martyrs, they love to use guilt as a weapon. Once their sanitary standards have been achieved, they are very easy submissives to play with, and love to be set on a course of helpful pursuits such as cleaning the bathroom floor with a small brush, or organising 3 years worth of tax receipts. He prefers to visit a well-renowned Professional Dominatrix on a regular (if somewhat minimal basis) so he can bask in the shared reflection of Her spotlight. He is initially difficult to get to know, but once he trusts a Mistress and truly opens himself up to Her, he will be a lifelong admirer. Sensually, the Virgo client is delicate and conservative, and very slow to show any interest in the fetish and fantasy activity he is participating in, yet once he gets interested he is very hard to "cool down". His intellect is stronger than his libido, but he is open to experimentation as long as the proposed play is organised and well thought out. The Virgo client keeps his fetish and fantasy play very separate from other aspects of self-exploration and his life. He respects the need for consensual deviance in his life, and he must respect the Mistress he shares it with. The "neat freak" or Virgo client often has a cold, flu, sinusitis or allergies due to killing too much of the healthy bacteria in his life. Due to his anal-retentive qualities, he may suffer from constipation or intestinal complaints. The smart Virgo client will play with a Professional Mistress who is very neat and organised Herself, who can accept the Virgo/neat-freak personality type, and maybe even play along with his (cleaning) obsessions and use them to enrich his scene, as opposed to complicating the fantasy session.

The Indecisive Client; Libra Tendencies. This submissive client is always yearning for balance in their lives. This means that many potential (Libra) clients are always looking for a richer Fetish and Fantasy experience or a "better" Mistress instead of finding the key or balance within them. They can never quite make up their mind, because the answer lies internally, not externally. They are often elegant, suave, and urbane. They strive for justice, harmony, fairness, beauty, and aesthetics in their life. Libra clients are flirtatious, and promote peace, diplomacy, social graces and good manners. They have problems with procrastination, making decisions, and they often go between many varied Pro and Private Dominatrixes because of this. They sometimes visit several Dominatrixes at once, as they are "in love with love". Libra clients are also prone to falling for false flattery, because they need to be admired for their overall wit, good taste, charm, and accomplishments. Some Libra clients may be coquettish, devious, narcissistic, material, and insecure. When Mr.Libra works hard, he plays hard; and then he collapses until nature restores his balance again. He prefers to be pursued, and may contact many different Pro Dommes until One shows him that She is willing to contend for his company. Once he has finally made a decision on which Dominatrix to devote himself to, and the aesthetics of the play-rooms and Mistress are just right, he will give his Mistress as much energy and attention as She gives him. He finds his true identity in such a harmonious relationship. The indecisive/Libra client may have health problems with his lower back, kidneys, and possible blood sugar complaints. Libra must find a patient Pro Domme who can teach him that indecisiveness is really a fear of failure, and that it is better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't done.


The Pervert; Scorpio Personified. Think Roman Polanski. Yes, he had relations with a 14 year old minor, which is illegal, but it has not been determined if the young lady in question was (capable of) consenting. This is the line that many Scorpio's walk; between edge play and up to the line of non-consensuality. Perversion is defined as "any means of sexual gratification that are widely regarded as being abnormal" especially when practised in preference to normal heterosexual intercourse." Goddess! That means that W/we are all perverts then, whee! I don't know anyone that strictly practices "normal heterosexual intercourse" (whatever the fuck that means...) But, when I describe a Scorpio client as being a pervert, I mean that out of all the signs in the zodiac, this is the submissive most likely to ask for (legal & consensual) scenes too perverse to mention. This is the client that could shock even ME! Scorpio submissives are dark and mysterious, lustful, extremely sexually magnetic, wilful, passionate, deeply emotional, loyal, inquisitive, intuitive and psychic, tenacious, strong willed, highly mentally and physically recuperative, enigmatic and intense. However, Scorpio submissives can also be superstitious, competitive, jealous, vindictive, manipulative, stubborn, controlling, sarcastic, intensely private, sexually insatiable, too self sufficient, and sometimes a bit of a loner. Submissive Scorpio's are so accepting and open to exploring their sexual proclivities that there is no sexual repression or guilt (which is the main cause of sexually criminal behaviour). Just because their tastes run from "abnormal", to bizarre (and even extreme), does not mean that Scorpio's are mentally ill. However, there is a slightly higher risk of Scorpio's getting an infection or S.T.D. as Scorpio's sexual organs are extra sensitive. Scorpio submissives love to combine primal passion with spiritual ecstasy, so they should find a wild and wise Professional Dominatrix who can guide them on a fun 'Safe, Sane & Consensual' journey.


The Endorphin Junkie; Saggitarius Traits. This client is not really a submissive, but a masochist-meaning he enjoys the challenge of pain and the subsequent adrenaline/endorphin rushes. He loves a physical challenge and is often addicted to extreme sports such as shark wrestling, parachuting,, bungee jumping, paragliding, etc. Anything that makes him feel more alive, I have a few gentlemen callers such as this. One in particular visits Me every 4 months or so, just before he is off to travel in a foreign land to dive off cliffs into exotic waters. (Lucky bastard...) he arrives for his appointment in a large pick-up truck, or a very powereful and loud motorcycle. The saggitarian client is constantly on a quest for truth and knowledge; always in pursuit of adventue and a good time. He is honest, humourous, positive, a social extrovert, an idealist, communicative and versatile. He may also be restless, tactless, and have an adversity to taking direct orders. He hates being an underling. He may be the epitome of the eternal bachelor, and he is either very extravagant or an utter miser. The endorphin seeking client has a good combination of human intellect and animal passions. He likes discipline, endurance tests and experimentation, but he hates bondage and submissive training. He is sensually lively, adventurous and open-minded with absolutely no guilt or shame. His only health problems lie in over-exertion and will probably effect his hips, thighs or feet. The Saggitarius/Adrenaline seeking client should probably seek a strong Dominatrx Who understands that a lack of submissiveness is not indicitive of any faults in Her. She should not question Her true Dominance if a Saggitarius-type client contacts Her , as a Domme is only as strong as Her submissive. Mr Saggitarius just likes to "live life big" and would do well to play with a Domme who can give him as much fun as he demands.

The "Distinguished Gentleman" client; Capricorn characteristics. When he is young, this submissive looks handsomely middle aged?when he is 65+, he looks handsomely middle aged. (I can't say for sure if he was born with greying temples and a three-piece suit, though...) He can be a little insecure and shy when young, but when he matures (40ish), he is quite socially skilled and well grounded. This gentleman is loyal, faithful, tenacious, logical, hardworking, determined, ambitious, pragmatic, responsible, methodical, and reserved, yet he has a dry sense of humour. Negatively, he might be possessive, jealous, prideful, defensive, hard to get to know, and have absolutely no self-humour. He tends to concentrate too much of his energies into his business life, and not enough on his personal life?which is why he visits Professional Dominatrixes. While he is very straight-laced, he can be quite "goatish" in the fetish and fantasy context once he is properly warmed up. This may take some time; but once that tie is removed from his neck and wrapped around his genitals, he can be quite the little slut for his Mistress. He often has a huge personal collection of fetish and fantasy equipment that he has taken years to collect. He should not be made to kneel too much, as he is prone to bone/knee/joint problems. Stress may cause skin complications and allergic flare-ups. This dignified client should partner with a Professional Dominatrix who can see through his confident veneer of career fixation and material success to the somewhat insecure, passionate and enthusiastic naughty little man in need of some seriously fun behaviour modification.

The Experimental Client; Aquarius inclinations. Life is one big, fun university for this submissive. Think Einstein; although it is probably not a good idea to image him being spanked?some things are just too weird! I have one client like this, and as long as I am smoking with a very long cigarette holder while wearing shoulder-length opera gloves, I can do whatever else I want with him. The Aquarius client is the most unorthodox of the zodiac, as well as being very original, intellectual, inventive, optimistic, eclectic, unpredictable, profound, eccentric, and a free thinker. Some may find him eerily detached, personally uninvolved, sceptical, stubborn, offhand, resistant and lazy. He likes to takes risks, as long as it will be exciting and unpredictable for him. He does not have a huge sensual drive, but a definite need to explore and be stimulated is very strong within the Aquarius client. He does not like to be tied down in the literal or esoteric sense. He is subject to muscle cramps, sudden illnesses, and freak accidents. He may take long breaks from his Mistress every so-often to recharge himself physically and emotionally. When he is ready to experiment again, he needs a Professional Dominatrix who can share his sense of wonder and his joy of life?in the dungeon as well as the "real world".


The Compulsive Client; Pisces propensities. This is the classic guilt-ridden masochist with an almost unhealthy urge to be dominated. Maybe once a year, sometimes even less frequently, the compulsive client calls up every Pro Domme in town, book appointments with every Pro Domme within a one or two day time frame, and actually shows up for most (if not all) his appointments. After this, he throws away all of his toys, books, magazines, videos, everything; and then starts all over again sometime later. The most memorable example of this type of personality was a man who booked five appointments with five different Mistresses in one day; each of them being intense medical cleansings. (This was a very dirty little man, people!) I have no idea if he made it to the last Mistress, but I think he was too drained after the fourth one to even make it back to his hotel room. The Pisces client tends to be dreamy, artistic, creative, sensitive, spiritual, compassionate, adaptable, tender, and loving. He will probably also be emotionally vulnerable, clingy, melancholic, easily deceived (and quick to deceive), manipulative, depressive, guilt-ridden, and definitely masochistic. This client has a need to be needed, is fantasy prone, has low self-esteem, and a fear of rejection. He will always chose the wrong life-partner, but he can be highly romantic and a loyal and caring playmate. He is sensually ambivalent, very libidinous, and masturbates frequently. He is like a sensual chameleon; he will reflect his Mistress' interests, and then become confused. He may use alcohol or drugs to fuel his libido, and he idealises his Mistress(es) by allowing his imaginative emotions to cloud his judgement. He has an absolutely masochistic urge to be dominated, and can become quite fixated on the negative or dark aspects of sex. His few health problems are caused by compulsive overeating, badly cared for feet, or by his overactive imagination. The compulsive Pisces client must seek Professional help by a caring Dominatrix to help him fully accept his masochistic and submissive tendencies. Complete self-acceptance does not happen overnight, but with the direction of a compassionate Mistress he might stop punishing himself, and let the Mistress take care of him.


Without getting too preachy, I hope you subs/fetishists/masochists have learned something about yourselves. The more honest you are, the better you can share your fetish and fantasy desires with your Professional Dominatrix. It doesn't matter if you are looking for a fun and kinky encounter, or searching for a deep and meaningful experience; each are equally important, and both types of fetish and fantasy play should satisfy your mind, body and soul. Whether you are a submissive, fetishist, or masochist, (or a combination of all three types), you should completely open yourself up to the services of A Professional Dominatrix, Fetish & Fantasy Specialist, or Skilled Sadist, (or the rare combination of all three), who can challenge, excite, and humble you on your divinely deviant journey.

The Astrological Dominatrix

I was asked by My editor at TAB Magazine to do an article based on the different "types" of Dominatrixes. I was uncomfortable with generalising or stereotyping Dominant Women, but I took a deep, brave breath, and narrowed down 13 different types of Dominatrix personalities. The 13th type was a "Lifestyle Dominatrix"; but really, whether a Domme participates in B/D-S/m play in Her personal life is none of a submissive clients' business. Besides, the term "Lifestyle" is thrown around far too much lately, and has lost much of it's significance. So that left Me with 12 basic styles of Dominatrixes.

Halfway through My research in defining the different characteristics, I noticed that all of the 12 "Dominatrix Types" that I had defined directly related to astrological characteristics, and the 12 signs of the Zodiac.

O.K: BIG DISCLAIMER. This is for entertainment purposes only.

I am a Professional Dominatrix, a "bondage-chair Therapist", and an amateur Astrologer. Women are vastly intricate and diverse. Dominatrixes tend to have a great deal of the combined total characteristics that I have listed. One style of Domination is no better or worse than any other style. I have a theory that Dominatrixes are generally one main "Type" of Mistress, and depending on the cycle of the moon can acquire different personality characteristics. Do NOT contact your favourite Mistresses and ask them their (sun-main) sign. This will NOT give you any meaningful insight into their style of Domination.

So, do NOT think that a Scorpio Mistress will automatically have all the attributes of a "Sensual Dominatrix". This may come as a shock to many submissives, but the Professional personality of a Mistress may differ greatly from that of Her personal and private personality; We are so much more than "just" Professional Dominatrixes. I have chosen to use the "rising" sign, which indicates how others perceive Us, and has no relation to Our main or "sun sign", or even Our secondary or "moon sign". I have translated many different resources worth of primary, secondary, and tertiary astrological characteristics as well as 10+ years of interaction with many Professional Dominatrixes to apply to a B/D-S/m context.

"The Intellectual Dominatrix": (Aries rising tendencies); This Woman is a dare-devil, confident, adventurous, spontaneous, energetic, impulsive, quick-witted, and often takes the initiative. Careful, she has a hot temper, and She can be contrary, and impatient. She enjoys wrestling in either the physical or intellectual meanings, and loves nothing more than discovering your hidden fetishes and desires. You better be truly submissive to this Domme. She is sensually aggressive. She like a challenge, and enjoys nothing more than using Her superior intellect to utterly subjugate you. She excels at psychological Domination, and will often include essay writing in your training. Her costumes tend to be "armour" as opposed to sexually suggestive. HH She is prone to headaches, so make sure Her surroundings are as stress-free and comfortable as possible. The jewel Her sign should be adorned with is diamond, but if you really want to intrigue this Mistress; challenge Her mind with current events and find a specific intellectual pursuit that you can share with Her.

"The Earthly Pleasures Mistress": (Taurus rising characteristics); This Lady is refined, strong-willed, conservative, patient, sociable, and loving. She can also be jealous, stubborn, spoiled, and even greedy. She is classically beautiful, with strong features. She is very sensually straight-forward and is skilled in the basics of the sensual arts, especially a slow and steady seduction. This is a good Mistress for sensualists, those players who are not terribly masochistic. She enjoys visual stimulation, so Her playrooms will have lots of mirrors?She will usually have very plush dungeons stocked with foods, beverages, scents and other sensual pleasures, more for Her enjoyment than the submissive's. She practices Professional Domination in order to provide for Her materialistic desires. She is difficult to get in touch with sometimes, because She has other financial endeavours. She will enjoy sending you on lavish shopping trips as a method of punishment. She wears classically styled Fetish & Fantasy costumes of excellent quality, and rarely wears P.V.C. or cheap materials. Her neck can get quite tense, so you might ask Her if you could be honoured by giving Her a neck rub. The jewels She should be gifted with are emerald necklaces, but if you wish to keep this Mistress' interest, beg Her for the honour of lifetime servitude, and offer Her the finer pleasures in life, creature comforts, and emotional and financial stability.

"The Part-Time Domme": (Gemini rising Traits); This busy Woman is torn between different aspects of Her life. She is adaptable, versatile, witty, and communicative. She can be anything and everything She wants to be, and might be a student, parent/caregiver, artist, actor, or all of the above. She could be tense, superficial and maybe cunning. She prefers the "chase" over the actual relationship, and might surprise you by ordering you to tie Her up (or flog Her), just to keep things interesting. The fetish & fantasy player is in for a treat, as She can be quite perverse in her role-play. She definitely understands that a fantasy is not reality, which opens up all kinds of role-play possibilities. Domination is probably not Her permanent career aspiration or Her 24/7 "lifestyle" choice, yet She truly enjoys this duality. This Mistress enjoys submissives/masochists/fetishists who have a sense of adventure and like to try new things every visit. She has a small but adequate Fetish wardrobe, with costumes from every style and any material. She is prone to "floggers elbow", and Her hands and arms are easily strained. Ask if you may smoke in Her presence or dungeon, as Her lungs can be quite sensitive and She may have asthma. A nice piece of jewellery to adorn Her would be a moss-agate ring, but as a better effort to keep Her intrigued, you should keep your scene-related requests or suggestions interesting .She would enjoy you curled up at Her feet, reading aloud from one of Her books while She plots Her next adventure.

"The Mom-Dom": (The rising sign of Cancer); This warm, loving Domme is emotional, intuitive, imaginative, and very definitely nurturing. The opposite of Her many moods could include over-sensitivity, depression, and emotional neediness. She might be an older Woman, but even if She's young She will give excellent spankings and be wonderfully sympathetic to infantalists. She will always try to feed you, and may include food in your role-play, or even deny you food as a punishment. She is a highly spiritual creature, and Her sensuality always includes esoteric practices. She is a huge romantic, so you better bring Her chocolates AND flowers every visit. She is always on the lookout for the perfect house-slave to assist Her in maintaining Her comfortable dungeon (which is usually in Her home), and serve at Her many private fetish parties. If you are a dedicated slave, She'll never abandon you. She enjoys wearing sheer materials, voluminous skirts and puffy sleeves with tight corsets, and classic shoes and boots (but rarely platforms). Her breasts are usually soft, large and natural. Be the dutiful child and offer to be Her kitchen maid and help to prepare a sumptuous feast; set an elaborate table with fine china, flowers and candles, and clean Her kitchen after. Give this Mistress silver coloured surgical stainless steel rings beaded with pearls. (I know one "Mother-Domme" who has those kind of rings in Her labia.) Or, ask Her if you may run a hot, scented bubble bath for Her.

"The Fashionable Dom": (Leo [ascendant] the lioness); This trendy babe has the best Fetish wardrobe over any other Mistresses. Latex? Rubber? Leather? 9" Stiletto platforms? Ballet boots? She has it all? She is very self-confident, and extremely Dominant. She will be generous, creative, loyal and enthusiastic. Sensual play is all a big game to Her. Scenes always include high drama, total grandeur, and maybe a few risks. The negative side of this Mistress' personality can include vanity, egoism, self-absorption, and a taste for vengeance. She will be quite bossy. This Dominatrix has an extremely powerful sensual drive, which causes Her to exhaust a submissive if She visits with them too much. Visit this woman regularly so She does not forget you, but keep the visits at least a month apart. She will be physically fit, very well "presented" (perfect makeup, thick lush and silky hair, long sharp nails etc.) and have all the latest Fetish/Fashion magazines. Her love of Fashion is quite fetishistic, and She enjoys visiting with latex-lovers, boot fetishists, and subs who are interested in physical beauty. Do not slobber on Her clothes; She'll be furious if you mark, dirty, or otherwise damage any part of Her costume. She has a massive Fetish wardrobe, and frequently wears Fetish attire outside of sessions. Looking down Her nose at Her many slaves will cause Her back pains later in Her life. You can appease this Diva with a ruby set in a dramatic pendant on a gold chain, or better yet Fetish Fasion magazines. Clothes are important to this Dominatrix, so bartering a scene in exchange for a trip to Northbound, or He and She could be very successful.

"The All-Business" Domme: (Virgo rising characteristics); If you are looking for a highly skilled Dominatrix who is meticulous and ordered, this is the Mistress for you. She will have extremely clean, organised, well maintained, and sanitary playrooms. On the other hand, She can be fussy, analytical, hypercritical, and a perfectionist. She may not be terribly passionate, but She thoroughly enjoys making sure the minute details of the scene are just right. She will have the playrooms lit with exactly the right amount of candles, have the perfect music for your specific fantasy, and be wearing the most appropriate fetish outfit for your desires. If you have a very difficult or specific scenario that (in your humble opinion) other Dommes have had difficulty creating, this Mistress will make your fantasies perfect reality. She is also a good choice to visit for Medical Scenes. Professional Domination is this Woman's' chosen career, and She is very serious about Her vocation. This Mistress is very financially responsible, and is open to discussions or negotiations of a financial nature. This Mistress will always be available for a session if She has time in Her schedule, and you will get exactly the session you have paid for, to the exact minute. She will have a large, expertly co-ordinated Fetish wardrobe to appease Her many clients. A gift that may appease Her is a sardonyx paper weight, but the most logical gift for Her would be the right submissive to be Her paperwork or office slave. If you submissives feel you are up to the standards of this Mistress, you might assist in organising/maintaining Her tedious business concerns to help make Her incredible Domination business even more successful.

"The Youthful Dom": (Libra rising personality traits); This charming play-mate is diplomatic and idealistic. She likes gentleness in Her submissives, and enjoys sharing with Her play-partners. The other side of this Dominas' personality might include indecisiveness, gullibility, and flirtatiousness. She is very concerned that Her submissives' needs and desires are met, and will frequently ask if you are enjoying yourself, therefore She is often misunderstood as being unconfident, or even submissive. This Dominatrix may sometimes find Herself being "topped from the bottom", but She will not be too concerned about gaining control of the submissive. This is not really important to Her, as the main point to the scene is the submissives' enjoyment. The "youthful Domme" is an excellent choice for nervous submissives who are new (novices) to Professional Domination. This Mistress is exuberant, malleable, and fun. She will laugh a lot, and be almost shy at times. Expect Her to wear a little more lingerie than most Mistresses, and be really into P.V.C. mini-skirts and bra-tops. Her lower back may be easily strained or often tense, so the smart submissive will politely offer a back-rub to Her. Golden showers may be an occasional problem for this Mistress as She might be prone to urinary problems. Always bring a little present for this Mistress (She would be thrilled with any sapphire baubles) as she is fascinated by the finer things in life. A submissives' worldly experience, knowledge and wisdom is very intriguing to this young or young-at-heart Mistress.

"The Sensual Mistress": (Pure Scorpio rising); This is the stereotypical "bad-girl" Dominatrix. She is sexy, dynamic, mystical, intuitive, powerful and magnetic. If you desire this type of Domina, be prepared for the negative side of Her highly volatile and contradictory nature. She can be obsessive/compulsive, secretive, superstitious, and truthful or moralistic to a fault. Do NOT anger Her, She will never forget your misdeed, and thoroughly enjoy planning the perfect punishment for when you least expect it. This Dominatrix is a good choice for masochistic slaves who can give as much as this Mistress will demand. This Mistress is extraordinarily passionate, sensually energetic, and divinely deviant. Her sessions will bring a submissive/slave/fetishist to the heights of ecstasy and the depths of depravity at the same time. She loves giving showers, and She will tease the submissive to the point of insanity. She is very serious about exploring Her Dominant and Sadistic nature, and has no time for those who are into just a superficial, kinky experience. She has no problem using Her sensuality, and even sexuality to get what She wants. She is at Her intellectual and physical best late at night, perhaps between the hours of 8 p.m. and 4 am. This Sirens' wardrobe is always very sexy, and She enjoys wearing fetish attire that exaggerates or accentuates Her breasts, waist, hips, and legs. Her favourite colours are maroon, crimson, or blood-red with black. (Like the Black Widow.) The body areas ruled by Her sign are Her genitals, urinary tract, and pelvic area, but Her mind is Her erogenous zone.. If you wish to bring this Mistress's favourable attention towards your submissive self, always be utterly truthful to Her. If you are lying, She will know. Give Her a challenge, not a battle of wills. She will thrive on creating a perversity in Her slaves that rivals Her own twisted and wicked nature.

"The Party-Girl" Domina: (Sagittarius rising traits); This Dominatrix is highly optimistic, philosophical, and loves the freedom that Professional Domination gives Her. She is always ready to have a good time. However, She may be restless, irresponsible and even careless, but She is trusting, and reliable in Her affection for Her submissives. Her creativity is boundless, and She loves to engage in risky fetish and fantasy play. She will often have wild or multicoloured hair and nails. She will be at every fetish party or event, but will always be late. This Mistress is difficult to contact before noon. Her collection of costumes is usually very colourful, and She enjoys wearing jewel-toned Patent Leathers, and multi-coloured body-hugging latex. Her hips and thighs are Her favourite body part, and She takes great pains to keep them toned and strong, sometimes spending too much time on them during Her workout. She might allow you the pleasure of massaging Her tense thighs, or If She professionally participates in this activity, She would enjoy "thigh-domination"--wrapping Her legs around a lucky submissives neck and squeezing. Oversized topaz or amber gems really catch Her eye, but if you want to get on the good side of Her, offer this Dominatrix a trip to an out-of-town Fetish Convention, but do not expect Her to be at your "beck-and-call", as She is very independent.

"The Feminist Mystress." (Capricorn rising characteristics.) This Womyn prefers the company of other Womyn, but She is not necessarily a lesbian or a man-hater. She firmly believes in the superiority of Womyn. She is disciplined, reserved, and prudent with the male species. She may also be pessimistic about male-female relationships. She might be suspicious of any financial negotiations you might propose, and She is very rigid in Her dealings with men. You better be utterly subservient to this Womyn, and dedicate yourself to pleasing Her, or She'll quickly lose any interest in training you. If you do manage to satisfy Her demands, She will expect lifetime loyalty from you, and She will be your lifetime protector. This Mistress is a good choice for submissives who have no desire to receive any empathy from their Mistress as She can be exceptionally severe, or be creative in Her many ways to humiliate you. Sometimes, She does not allow you any safe-words. In your submissive perception She may not be paying enough attention to you, but She never lets you--or your next predicament-- out of Her mind. This confident Womyn prefers to wear black leather pants with fitted black leather vests, and shoes or boots with a low heel. Offer Her tributes of black onyx jewellery, or black leather accessories and clothing. If you want to warm up Her icy exterior, you should prove yourself to be reliable, serious, and have a definite non-sexual, or spiritual purpose to your visits with Her.

"The Mystery Domme", (Aquarius rising tendencies.) This Mistress is inventive, secretive, and honest. She may also be unemotional, contradictory and perverse. She likes to enjoy Herself with the company of others, and her private nature is quite intriguing to submissives/slaves. She is experimental, and She will usually have an extensive collection of gadgets and tools--particularly electrical devices. This mysterious Mistress is cool, detached, and never speaks of Her personal life. Obviously, She is the perfect choice for those submissives who desire mystery in their life. She will prefer to meet you at your home, office, hotel, or a Studio She shares with other Dominants. She will instruct you to wait naked on your knees (maybe in the bathroom or closet), with your clothes neatly folded on the chair and the tribute in an envelope. Sometimes She will order you to use your tie as a blindfold, and all this before She enters the room! (The submissive rarely sees Her arrive or depart.) She may wear a wig, and heavy makeup, and Fetish costumes that are not too revealing. (The submissive will never see Her "non-Mistress" appearance.) She will frequently kick off Her heels and go barefoot in a session as Her legs and ankles are over-sensitive, or, She will discover a favourite pair of boots and wear them with every outfit. This Domina appreciates gifts of turquoise jewellery, but She is prone to anemia and blood sugar problems, so an offering of juice would be appropriate as well. If the submissive can handle Her impersonal nature, he will feel like a spy on a secret mission, as every meeting with Her feels so deliciously clandestine. Even if She expresses an interest in your personal life, do not pry into this Woman's personal life. She prefers Her submissives to be focused on the moment, happy with Her good company, and interested in having fun.

"The New-Age Domina": (Pisces rising traits); This Woman is spiritual, esoteric, compassionate, self-less, kind and considerate. She also tends to be "flighty", vague and a dreamer. She may lack "earthly" boundaries, as Her mind is usually up in the clouds. She dislikes physical vulgarity, and enjoys a sensual exchange based on spiritual and intellectual challenges. Her mood is either very tranquil, or very morose. Her playrooms might have lots of plants, pillows, rugs, indirect sunlight, and/or multicoloured mood lighting. She has lots of crystals on display, and She often wears new-age symbols as tattoos or jewellery. She can not do a session without candles or incense. Many of Her published photos depict her wearing attractive and feminine-- but not necessarily fetish clothing. She will wear fetish clothes, but only if the submissive specifically and respectfully asks Her to. This is the Mistress to visit if you are a foot fetishist, as Her feet are always in need of a good massage. She will enjoy the submissive pampering Her feet with scented oils and lotions, and She will always have a well-loved collection of favourite shoes and boots. She tends to have minor liver or lymphatic dysfunctions, and enjoys drinking herbal teas to detoxify Her system. Treat Her as your earth-bound Goddess and bring Her offerings of moonstone. To be this Dominas' favourite submissive, you should offer to build Her a meditation room, a sunroom, or a beautiful garden with small ponds, waterfalls and fountains.

Do not judge a Domina by any single specific standard; Dominant Women are spectacularly diverse, creative, and highly unique individuals. No-one has the ability or the right to limit Us to any specific definition. We define Ourselves and We make Our Own rules--not the submissive. We have the feminine prerogative of changing "The Rules" or Our style, and even Our self-definitions as We deem fit.

Most Professional Dominatrixes will be able to choose different aspects of their personality from every "type" on this list, as well as other characteristics and styles not mentioned here. You do not really know your Dominatrix until you know Her as a complete Personality; if She decides to share Her personal Self with you.

The current moon sign has an influence over Our daily personality, as do the ever-changing planetary alignments. This "Astrological Dominatrix" List was purely for fun, as an experiment in astrology, and should only be used by the submissive/masochist/fetishist as a resource list for pleasing your Mistress, not categorising Her. As for defining submissives through astrological charts and personality types; that's the next article...

How To Communicate your Needs and Desires To A Professional Dominatrix

A little bit of fear towards your Mistress is a healthy thing. However, you should never be afraid to talk intimately and honestly with your Mistress. Always pay strict attention to S/M etiquette (good manners) when talking to a Mistress. Never exaggerate or lie about your S/M experience, as honest communication is the most important factor in creating a hot and meaningful BDSM session. There are many different situations where discussing your desires is very important to the success of an S/M scene. The most usual areas where communicating is essential are on the telephone when arranging the appointment; before the session begins (at the Mistresses' Domain); during the S/M scene; and especially after your session. Occasionally there are special situations where an open discussion is crucial to the success of the scene, such as a public outing; extended or overnight scenes, and ultimately long term S/M relationships. A submissive and/or masochist will never have a great session if they are unable or unwilling to talk about their needs and desires with their Mistress.

S/M etiquette is simply good manners from a submissives' point of view. If you know nothing about S/M before you contact a Professional Domme, chances are She will know. Do not try to lie about your experience. Approach Her with a very humble, polite, and honest attitude. Ignorance of S/M etiquette is no excuse for bad behaviour. Do not cover your ignorance with ego, rudeness, or vulgar language. Pro Dommes are Superior Women, not "slutty little girls". Even though I work in the "Sex Industry", am a Lady, and deserve to be spoken to as such. Do not lie, or exaggerate. A good Pro Domme will know you are lying, and a Dom who does not call you on your lie(s) will not be able to properly train you as a submissive, let alone share a great S/M scene with you. Always use the Mistresses' name when you talk to Her, with every exchange of words. Do not volunteer any information unless She asks you, and only speak when spoken to. Thank Her for any interest or attention She shows to you. For example; if the Mistress asks you "What activities do you desire within an S/M scene" Reply; "Thank You for asking, Ms. Zea. i enjoy light bondage such as soft ropes; and light discipline, usually with a wide leather paddle." Be very specific about your needs, and give exact examples of what you mean. "Light" will mean different things to different submissives.

Do not use sexually explicit language. I am not a phone sex operator or a prostitute, and I do not enjoy listening to you discuss the size, qualities and peculiarities of your penis. I may decide to ask you your most intimate desires and fantasies.

Do not try to tell Me without My asking. Never interrupt when I am talking to you. This is the same as saying, "Shut up! What I have to say is more important than what you are saying!"

Never correct The Dominants' sentences, grammar or facts. (Unless you are Her publisher or editor!) When you are writing Her a letter, or composing an S/M story, use lower-case notations for the submissive, and uppercase notations for The Mistress.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say; The Domina should, as well. Keep your replies short, and to-the-point: a Professional Dominants' time is very valuable. Do not call a Pro Domme a "girl", or a "guy" She is a Woman, (most likely) a Lady, and always a Dominant. You are most likely a submissive, and if you approach a Domina submissively--and with the proper etiquette--you will find that She will be more than generous when fulfilling your needs.

Think before you say something stupid to a Dominatrix. Many men call Me up and state that they are perfectly trained submissives. If you were "perfectly trained" why do you need a session? Why are you not with The Dom who trained you "so well ?" Did you surpass your Mistress? How can you presume to be perfectly trained---isn't that what the Mistress is supposed to decide? How can you tell Me that you are perfectly trained--did I train you, and (improbably) declare you "the perfectly trained submissive" Are you assuming that My training methods are exactly the same as another Doms'?

A big mistake is to talk about any past Dominants' personal life or their secrets. It is OK to discuss what you have learned from past S/M experiences, be they good or bad, but leave the Domina's name in your mouth. Do not drop (brag about) Dominas' names, unless you are specifically applying for a personal slave position. I do not care Who you have seen before, and if you are so eager to tell Me everything about the different Women Who have "trained" ; you, what will keep you from talking about Me all over town?

Another incredibly silly statement that I hear all too often is: ";Oh, Mistress. i am just a piece of shit beneath Your feet...i am lower than a worm...i am worthless." (Yes, I really do hear that a lot.) If you were actually all that pathetic, would I waste My time to play with you? Would a Goddess have a piece of shit leaving trails of slime behind on Her stilettos? And please, do not insult worms. They are one of natures' only true Hermaphrodites, and truly superior beings, having dual-sexuality capabilities--you would be so lucky. Besides if you honestly are all that worthless, I would be the One to decide and inform you of that! Fortunately, I have a wicked sense of humour. I am not going to ignore or deny you when you do say something stupid. Please take a second before you quote something tired and over-used to Me. I won't pay any attention to the foolish things you say. I will, however, remember if you speak with honesty, creativity and intelligence.

When you finally get up enough nerve to call a Professional Dominatrix, remember your S/M etiquette when you speak to Her. If you don't, She might hang up on you. In a worst case scenario, the Domina might obtain your phone number through call display, (or any other method available through technology.) Likewise, do not hang up on Her answering machine.

If you disrespect the Domina, do not expect to get an appointment with Her, or any other Domina affiliated with Her. (Dommes DO talk to each other, and often exchange information about "bad", disrespectful, unsafe or violent clients.)

Ask the Domina about Her Experience (training/education), Her equipment, Her cleaning/ sterilization methods, and Her safety procedures.

Most importantly, inquire if your limits will be respected, and if safewords are used in Her Dungeon(s). If the Dominatrix can't or won't answer any of your questions to your 100% satisfaction, DO NOT book a session with Her. Do not book a phoney appointment, your voice, requests, or name and number will be remembered. You do not have to book an appointment every time you talk to a Dominatrix, Professional Doms do not mind talking briefly with sincere, interested gentlemen.

The Professional Dominatrix should talk to you in a polite, respectful, professional, and friendly manner. If She can provide you with the sensual services you desire, ask if you may book an appointment with Her.

Some Pro Dommes have very strict policies regarding tributes, and will allow no "bargaining" of the amount of tribute you give Her for an S/M scene. However, it does not hurt to ask, "Ms Zea, will you allow any room for compromise towards Your tribute?" If the Domme does not, DO NOT argue with Her. (She has Her reasons, which may include the preparation time needed for your scene, the cost of non-reusable (sterile, or one use only) materials that you need, or the attention you require during your session.)

A lower tribute does not mean a better session. If you give a professional "amateur level tributes" you will usually get an inadequate session. (Do not pay an amateur Professional level tributes, you will still receive an incompetent session.) Chances are you will get a better tribute, and a better session if you do not give the Domme a "power struggle" over the tribute. If the Dominatrix graciously allows you a break, you are extremely lucky. DO NOT PUSH HER FOR A FURTHER BREAK ON THE TRIBUTE. This would be very bad etiquette.

We have been known to quote a more than reasonable tribute to submissives who are friendly, well-mannered, honest, and personable. We have also been known to arrange a much lowered tribute to submissives who are fun to play with, and have an easy-going, open personality. We try to make Our sessions available to all, regardless of financial position. We would much rather play with a poor, humble gentleman than a rich self-centred egotist. If you have a free or loose schedule, ask Her what time would be best for Her. (That is a quick and easy way for you to gain favour with the Mistress.)

Professional Domination is a "service", and during the negotiations on the phone you are a potential "client". However; to a Mistress you are almost always a submissive, and the Mistress is always a Dominant.

When you arrive at the Professional Dominants' Domain, decide if Her premises is everything that She claimed it to be. If She described Her Dungeons to be a stately Victorian manor, and you walk up to the address and it is a common Toronto row house, you know She was exaggerating. If She told you the Dungeon was two whole floors, and She shows you her T.V. room on the main floor (decorated with cheap sex-store whips) , and Her laundry room in the basement (with Her cats' litter boxes in the corner), you should probably leave. If you are still hopefully expecting a miracle, and Her "fully equipped collection of tools" turns out to be Her boyfriends' craftsman power tool set, leave! If you are still there, and expecting to have a cross-dressing scene in a fully-equipped transformation room, and She takes you into Her bedroom, LEAVE! She is lying to you. Any exaggeration, mis-communication, or stretching of the truth is a LIE, in order to take your hard-earned money.

If the Mistress" is not talking to you in a sober or sane state, leave. She should be clear of voice, and not blurry eyed. If She is slurring, stumbling or sliding Her feet, giggling, talking too loud or too soft, leave. (A good Domina will respect the submissives' safety, and ask them to leave if they look or sound drunk or stoned.)You always have the right to leave; however, a small token is good S/M etiquette. Only leave Her an appreciation if She appears to have spent time preparing Her makeup and wardrobe for your session, or if your specific fantasy required a lot of preparation.

A good Domina will want to talk to you (again,) before the session begins, (whether you have seen Her before or not.) This is when you may get into more specific, intimate, and personal detail about your session. When discussing your scenario with the Mistress, still obey the rules of S/M etiquette. Honestly tell Her what you like done to your body, (and if you can share this much, what you like done to your mind and soul.) If you can, tell Her WHY you desire these acts. Most Pro Dommes are not psychic, and can not read your mind. Many of them need you to verbally communicate your needs and desires.

Do not look into Her eyes when you are talking to Her, always look at Her face, below Her eyes. Incredibly, by obeying these simple and basic rules of S/M etiquette, the sincere submissive will find their needs and desires met stronger than their expectations.

A "submissive" who constantly antagonises, disrespects, and tells their Mistress what to do (and how to do it) will only receive the minimum of attention, if they are not asked to leave. Do not give your Mistress a written script to follow. If She does not have the sensitivity to listen to your desires, then intelligently create a unique scene that meets your needs, She is not truly a Professional Dominant Mistress.

Once your personalized scene has begun, follow the Mistresses' specific rules of S/M etiquette. Pay attention to your Mistresses' body language, and respond in kind. (There are more ways to communicate then with just words.) If she is stand-offish and emotionally cold, keep your distance; verbally, physically and emotionally. If She is open, kind, and flirtatious, relax and open up to Her; verbally, physically and emotionally.

Never touch your Mistress, unless She has specifically ordered you to.

If She does not tell you what Her rules are, ASK HER.
If you ever have any questions, ASK HER.

Some Mistresses allow eye contact, most don't . Some Dommes need their submissives to give them constant feedback. Some Dominas will not allow a single word to escape their submissives' mouth. When you are granted the chance to speak to Her, remember to use Her name every time you respond to Her. ALWAYS respond with:
"yes Ms Zea", or
"No Ms Zea" or
"Please Ms Zea" or
"Thank You Ms Zea"...

Obviously, insert your own Mistress' name. If you don't know what to say when your Domina speaks to you, these four phrases will always be appropriate. These four sentences are usually all a submissive should have to say, except if the Mistress demands greater detail. If your Mistress is exceptionally talented, you should not have to talk very much during your session except for the occasional "Ooooh Mistress" or "Aaaah, Mistress" ---*A small hint*--- never say "Oh God!" During the session, the Mistress IS your Goddess. Therefore, instead, say; "Oh Ms Zea!" (Or insert your Mistresses' name.) Always apologize directly after any transgression or mistake. If you don't, your Mistress will remember.

During the session, trust your Mistress to stay within your personal limitations. If you still feel the need to beg your Mistress to stop, do not say; "Oh please, Mistress, stop!" Not only is this telling your Mistress what to do, many masochists use this phrase repeatedly in order to fuel their desires. Most Doms will ignore this, and continue to play with you. If you really need Her to stop, use the safeword "Mistress, yellow, please!" Then, truly share your fears and/or feelings. If you are having a heart attack, "Mistress, stop!" might be interpreted to mean that you are really enjoying yourself, when you are really dying. You must use the safeword,"Mistress, red, please!" This is the only communication that will entirely stop a scene.

The only way to GROW through S/M play is with honest, intimate, trusting communication. If you are not growing through S/M play, then you are STALLED. If you are stalled, then your S/M play is BORING. A submissive friend of Mine jokingly uses the safeword "Blue, Mistress!" when he is bored in a scene with his other play partners.

S/M play is supposed to be fun and exhilarating . If it is not, then you are playing with the wrong person!

After the session, many S/Mers enjoy talking about the scene. You might talk about your feelings, emotions or fears. You might discuss ways to expand your current range of S/M experience, or improve on what you have already played with. Some submissives discover that they have come into touch with some extremely hidden memories, and many masochists actually find a good S/M session more emotionally healing than a session with a "licensed therapist". Some people need to talk about the scene immediately after the session, but most prefer to talk about it days, or even weeks after the session. This allows all the thoughts and feelings time to mature and deepen, before you make judgements based on them. Some of My submissives like to talk about the scene right before their next session.

Do not think that your scene is finished when you leave your Dominas' Domain. Any experienced S/Mer knows that a successful S/M scene continues in the mind, body and soul of the player long after you say goodnight.

Do not analyse the fun completely out of the scene. Sometimes the only communication needed is "Whew! That was amazing!" Sometimes, the "after scene discussion" needs to be an entire S/M session in itself.

Usually, an extended session will require a more intimate and detailed discussion. In a public scene, all of the people involved, (whether they are players or voyeurs) should give their verbal consent to any or all activities that might take place. If the submissive desires to meet with a Dominatrix over multiple visits, then he should communicate his specific needs for growth.

A long term S/M relationship requires an in-depth, honest, and intimate talk, as well as a commitment. The commitment can be a verbal one, but is usually a written contract signed by both the Dominant and submissive. Points to discuss include expectations, fears, fetishes, fantasies (the ones you wish made into reality, as well as the ones that should remain fantasy), personal limits (which ones you are willing to expand, and the limits that are to be strictly maintained), S/M oriented goals (immediate, medium-range, and long-term), financial limitations, personal situations (such as school or business), home-based relationships (such as a wife and/or children), safewords, favourite tools, and medical conditions (physical and emotional). Most of these points should also be covered with your S/M partner for a "short" 1-2 hr session, not just the "longer" scenes.

If you are fortunate enough to go out in public with your Dominatrix, there are many more rules of etiquette to be followed. If you wish to communicate with your Dominant during an outing, always wait until They are not engaged in a conversation with someone else. Ask for permission to speak, then say what you need to. Example; "Ms Zea, may i speak?"---"Yes!"---"May i please go to the mens' room, Ms Zea?" Always ask for permission to leave your submissive position, of just behind and to the right. Ask for permission to talk to someone other than the Dominant you are with, even if a person (wrongly) starts a discussion with you without talking to the Dom you are with, (first). Do not look others in the eye when you are talking to them, especially if they are Dominant. *Hint*--Dominants usually carry tools of discipline or keys on their left side, and have a relaxed posture. Submissives generally have their eyes lowered and humbled, their heads held high and proud, and stand very straight and still. Submissives wear tools on their right side. These are some of the many ways that S/Mers non-verbally communicate with each other. If followed correctly, these important rules of etiquette will show the Dominant (you are with) how dedicated you are to Them. you will also show their acquaintances how well you have been submissively trained By your Dominant.

Do not mistake proper submission for a lack of confidence.
Do not assume that a submissive is worth less than a Dominant.
Swallow your ego, yet keep your submissive pride.
A good submissives' thoughts and opinions are valuable, and worth sharing through communication tempered with proper S/M etiquette.

If a Dominant does not allow the submissive to discuss their needs and desires, than a good S/M scene cannot happen. If the Dominant is the only One talking, then there is no exchange of power, and successful S/M play requires a safe, sane, and consensual exchange of power.

Good S/M should increase ones' confidence in themselves, not inhibit them.

If you are too quiet and meek, then your desires will not be heard.
If you are too loud and arrogant, your desires will be ignored.

Talk openly, honestly, and intimately with your S/M partner.


Do not fear communication in an S/M scene, fear the silence...

Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Professional Domination

What intrigues and enslaves so many different kinds of people from Canadian truck drivers to British politicians? Why does a young man in college save up for six months to visit a Dominatrix so he can smell, touch, and kiss Her feet? Why does a 50 year old C.E.O. visit his Domina once a week over a dozen years to grovel beneath Her and proclaim his eternal devotion? What's the connection between an East Indian Fakir laying almost naked on a bed of nails, and a North American business man wearing only leather cuffs and whip marks?

I strongly advise my visitors to never analyse why they need their particular fetish and/or fantasy. It is unhealthy to deny your inner desires, so fully explore your secret self, and have FUN through S/M play. If you are not lucky enough to have your own personal Dominant and submissive relationship, seek Professional help! A Pro Dom should be able to offer you a clean and safe collection of creative and traditional S/M equipment in a professional dungeon. She should also possess intelligence, wisdom, creativity, passion, honesty, and S/M experience. A good Dominatrix will have a deep understanding of human behavior, and (contrary to popular belief), sincerely like men. An extensive wardrobe and a beautiful physical appearance are not the only standards to judge a Professional Domina by.

Of course a gorgeous latex clad Woman towering over you in six inch heels may bring you to your knees with Her beauty, but can She keep you there perched precariously on Her stilettos? The fetishes and fantasies that Pro Doms cater to (yes, We are providing a service, and you deserve to get what you pay for) require expertise as well as equipment. Your fetish/fantasy scenario is as distinct and unique as the Domina who fulfils it, and should be customised for the both of you, not read from a script. Professional Dominatrixes deal with (mostly gentlemen's) Sadomasochistic (S/M) fetishes and fantasies. There are eight areas of fantasy that a Professional Dominatrix caters to; Bondage, Discipline, Training , Crossdressing, Infantilism, Role-play scenarios (including Medical Scenes), Torture, and Body Worship,(Non-oral-genital.) Any of these fantasies may cross over into each other, and are mostly experienced by visitors only two to three activities per session. Many scenarios within the same hour or two can be too time consuming and costly for many submissives, and/or masochists.

A submissive and a masochist are not the same. A submissive is one who enjoys giving over control (sexually or not) to their Dominant. A masochist is a person who sexually enjoys pain and humiliation. Most submissives are Masochists, but not all are.

Dominants , Sadists and Mistresses are not the same, either. A Dominant is a Person who enjoys being in control (sexually or not) of a submissive. A Sadist is someone who sexually enjoys inflicting pain or humiliation on a masochist (from the name Marquis De Sade). Mistress is the title of a Woman who Dominates a man or a woman, Professionally or privately. Most Dominants are Sadistic, although not all are.

You know from my previous article that Professional Dominatrixes are not prostitutes, and in this article you will learn what a that a good Dominatrix should be a professional guide through the arts of S/M. The Latin translation of Dominatrix is Queen. I am a Professional Dominatrix , Sensual Sadist, and Lifestyle Mistress.

Sadomasochism is any activity that combines one person's sexual enjoyment of giving up control, with another person who sexually enjoys taking control. The controlled situation does not have to be sexual, but the enjoyment is. E.g. walking behind and to the right of your Dominant, or doing the housework in a collar, as a slave. S/M does not necessarily involve pain, humiliation , bondage or sex.

Myself, and other 'Professional Dominatrixes' practice Safe, Sane & Consensual Domination. Safe, meaning all precautions, including viral and bacterial protections are taken before the S/M scene; Sane, meaning no alcohol or drugs, and no unconscious people, minors, or anyone else unable to make a valid decision are involved the scene; and Consensual meaning , All people, including voyeurs, agree to any or all activity that may take place, and fully understand the risks involved.

ANYONE may exit the scene at any time, with the proper use of safe words. This is so the submissive does not have to "tell" the Dominant which direction the scene should take, but can still communicate with respectful S/M etiquette. We use RED, YELLOW, & GREEN. "Red Mistress", means, ' Please stop the entire scene NOW because of medical concerns, I feel ill'; "Yellow Mistress", means, 'Please stop the session for a moment to talk about minor concerns, I feel uncomfortable.' "Green Mistress", means, 'Please continue exactly what You are doing, it feels great.' Both the Dominant and the submissive can use safewords. If the masochist loses the ability to judge their safety in the heat of a whipping scene, the Sadist must recognise when to call "Yellow". It is my opinion that a good Dom should be able to read the body language and cries of their sub before the sub has to use a safeword. However, some submissives give as much feedback as a rock (as My Mentor said; it's the same as a person who is a "dead-fuck") , and it is difficult to know a visitor very well during the first session. At least "Red" should be called, because I can't play with a broken "toy".

If you trust me, I will bring you slightly past your "yellow" limit, then ease off. I assume "Green", but it brings me great pleasure to make my submissive feel good, so you may say "Green" as often as you wish.

If you wish the scene to start the second you enter your Mistress's domain, please talk about safewords on the phone during negotiations, before the session. Also, ask your Dominant if your limits will be respected. Submissives are not worth less than Dominants; respect should be mutual. Finally, inquire about her cleaning methods, and where and how she learned the techniques of Domination. If she doesn't answer your questions, visit a Domina who does.
One more Definition before W/we get to the intimate stuff; a Fetish can be defined as a sexual attraction to any inanimate object or non-sexual body part. The most commonly fetishised objects are feet, stiletto shoes, high heel boots, legs, and stockings. Hands, fingernails, gloves and cigarettes are very popular as well. I have one visitor who has a fetish for navy-blue leotards and turtlenecks with faded blue jeans on the Mistress, and on himself. Mistress Poison has a visitor who has a fetish for rubber rain boots, and a raincoat on the Mistress.

Bondage is the most requested S/M activity. There are four types of bondage; Hard, Soft, Humiliating, and self-restraint. Hard, or heavy, can include being caged, boxed in, buried, metal chains and hand-cuffs, plaster mummification, multi-point suspension, needle and thread restraint (blood-play), and multi-sensory deprivation (hearing, sight, touch, etc.). Temporary piercing is one method of nipple or genital bondage which would be considered hard bondage. Nipple or genital bondage can be heavy or soft, depending on what ties are used, and how they're used and if the nipples, cock and/or balls or cunt is tied to something. Soft, or light bondage can include leather or rope restraint of the neck (but not strangulation!), wrists and/or ankles, a straightjacket, a body bag, an arm-binder, a hood, a gag, a blindfold, latex or plastic-wrap mummification, 2 or 4 point suspension, and single sensory deprivation. Humiliating bondage often includes "forced" feminization with the sub being restrained with a corset, high heels, a wig and makeup. ( Dominas in corsets and thigh-high lace-up stiletto boots are also in bondage, but are not humiliated. I can get uncomfortable in heels after a few hours, but I feel and look very powerful when I am wearing my fetish gear. A man (who is not crossdressing) in heels and a corset is an embarrassing sight.) I have humiliated a visitor in a public cafe while he was wearing his leather cuffs and studded collar under his Bay St. uniform of a suit and tie. I told him to loosen his tie and undo his buttons so he would be embarrassed if people saw his slave collar. Self bondage is self explanatory. Any method of restraint done by a person to their self, such as; a woman tying her ankles to her bedposts before she goes to sleep. Self bondage can also mean ordering the submissive to remain in one spot or position, with only their will restraining them. The person who is in bondage can be tied to their self, (wrists to ankles), another person, (which is very fun), or to an inanimate object such as a chair. Most Doms have special equipment for restraint, such as a bondage horse, a bondage bench, a St. Andrew's cross, a bondage table, an inverting rack, a torture wheel, a sling, a bondage post, a rack and pulley system, or even a suspension cage with a pulley system equipped for several hundred point suspension.

A common reason why bondage enthusiasts like to be tied up is that they need to feel helpless and under complete control of their Mistress. Many people feel secure and safe in a very limiting position. Some of My visitors like to struggle against their bonds and feel restricted and uncomfortable. Some people get excited by the notion that they have been captured or kidnapped, so a frequent request is "inescapable bondage". Many S/Mers experience a floating, weightless "out-of-body" feeling, especially when they are mummified or in multi-point suspension. To Me, bondage is a perfect way to escape from My physical body, and be released from the responsibilities that I carry. (Yes, I do switch in My personal life.) Every good Dominant should experience S/M as a submissive, or at least a "bottom's" point of view. (The Top is who controls the activity that takes place, but does not control the bottom. The scene, not the bottom is controlled by the Top.)

The second most requested service of a Professional Dominatrix is discipline. Then pain of physical discipline comes in two types; a "thump" feeling, which can come from a heavy and wide flogger, a paddle, or a padded baseball bat; and a "sting" sensation, which can be given with a single-tail bullwhip, a rubber strap, or a thin cane. Discipline can be defined by the four categories of hard, soft, humiliating, or self. Hard, or heavy discipline, can mean the masochist being hit tens or hundreds of times with a bullwhip, a leather or rubber flogger, a leather, rubber or wooden paddle, a leather or rubber strap, a tawse (a 2 or 3 pronged strap), a wooden, plastic or metal cane, a rubber hose, or any other object that causes great and lasting pain. Practically any implement can be painful, depending on how it is used. I have disciplined an adult baby with his heavy, urine soaked diaper whapped against his bum. Marks, scarring, or bleeding is optional, and your limitations and safety words must be communicated to your Mistress before the scene starts.

Soft, or light discipline, can be experienced through an erotic hand spanking, a soft yet heated encounter with a horse-tail flogger, a firm wooden hair brush , a tickling feather duster, or any other method of gently sensitizing (increasing the feeling) the skin or genitals. Soft discipline is absolutely necessary before heavy discipline, in order to warm up the masochist (or devoted submissive). Humiliation is most often verbal, as opposed to physical abuse. This can be hard to soft, ranging from severe psychological abuse, disturbing a soul to it's core; or light-hearted name calling. E.g.; "You're more pathetic than a poodle with a pink pedicure." According to My Mentor: "Discipline through humiliation disturbs and breaks down the submissives' ego, questioning the fundamentals of who they 'think' they are." A Dominant can see how much they are injuring a submissive through physical discipline, but can not see how badly they are hurting a submissive through verbal discipline. Self discipline is obvious, any abusive act done by a masochist to their self. (Note the small but dedicated group of religious zealots that practice self-flagellation. These men are not ostracized, but looked up to and revered as holy men.) Discipline is not wholly defined by the tools of pain, but how the implements are used. I can give such a light, relaxing whipping with a seal-skin flogger, that you will feel that you have just had a therapeutic massage. I can also use the same tool to turn your back into a red, swollen mess. If a feather is used long enough, and in one spot, the subject might be screaming for the session to end. These are the delicious nuances of S/M.

The reasons why people enjoy discipline range from the profane to the sacred. A masochist may desire the sting of his Mistress's whip as he is reaching his sexual peak. The line between pleasure and pain is very thin to many S/Mers. Some people feel an intense need to be punished for current, past, or even imagined misdeeds, and their Mistress's flogger releases them of their guilt. Some submissives take the discipline that their Mistress gives them through devotion, to please them, and satisfy the Doms' sadistic urges. Some slaves swallow the pain out of obedience. Religious people perceive that discipline completely absolves them of their sins. There are still festivals in many Spanish countries where dozens of men parade through the city beating their backs with leather floggers tipped with razor blades. They believe this is spiritually cleansing, and can reach a spiritually ecstatic state, and feel closer to their god.

Many of our visitorss understand the need for themselves to be properly trained through S/M. There are (mainly) 7 different training methods; submissive, maid, slave, slut, toilet, dog or equestrian training. Submissive training involves teaching the S/M novice the fine arts of S/M etiquette, how to behave to a Mistress or a Master, how to hold your body, and how to treat a Dom the way They deserve--including massage, manicures and running Their bath-- generally making your Dom's life easier. Maid training involves all aspects of housework; laundry, dishes, floors, windows, cooking, preparing cocktails, serving, laying out your Dom's clothing, dressing your Dom, bathing Them, and (if you are very well trained, and won't embarrass your Dom,) They might allow you to serve at one of Their parties. Slave training means totally surrendering yourself, and doing everything that you have feared your Mistress or Master might ask of you. This may mean sexual, or even "humiliating" or humbling favors for Theirself, or Their friends. Slave training is the strongest way that a submissive can show his or her true devotion to their Owner .

Slut training is simply being an shameless , vulgar harlot. It often means throwing your ego out the window, and being a complete trollop. This includes body language, clothing, makeup, and sexual knowledge. Most slut training involves men crossdressing as whores and behaving as such. Toilet training usually entails receiving the honor of your Dom's bodily wastes, such as urine. 'Golden showers' are quite safe and sensual. Urine is sterile as it leaves the body, but I would not advise drinking it unless you have seen a 100% negative Lab Test result from your Dom's doctor. Your Dom might demand that you are "potty trained" and wear diapers, and order you to use them. If They are especially wicked, They might tell you to clean Their toilet with any tool They demand, including your mouth. For those who crave the "ultimate" in dirty play, there's always feces, or shit, called 'Brown Showers'. This can carry all bacteria and viruses, H.I.V. , Hepatitis (A.B.&C), parasites, and e.coli among other diseases. For the extremely perverse; 'Roman Showers', are to be gifted with your Mistress's vomit.

In dog training, you are taught how to be a "sick puppy". The dog will walk on all four paws in a leash and collar, and do many tricks for its' Mistress's or Master's amusement. Good dogs may lick their Owner's hands or feet, and sleep at the end of Their bed. Equestrian training involves you learning how to behave as a horse, and how to carry your Rider bareback, or with a saddle. Sometimes you may have a bit and bridle in your mouth, and if you are a proud pony, your Rider might let you use a butt-plug with real horse hair as a tail. If you are bad, your Owner will dig Their spurs into your sides, and hit you with Their riding crop. Training is a form of role-play, but it is usually long term, and only undertaken when a commitment or a written or verbal contract has been made between the Mistress or Master and the submissive. Some people enjoy training because they need very strict rules on how to live, and have difficulty with self-discipline. Some submissives are in need of very ritualized control. This makes expectations very clear, and life very simple.

Training is a positive way to dedicate yourself to your Mistress and Sadomasochism.

Crossdressing through Professional Dominatrixes mainly involves men wearing the clothing of a Woman, including pantyhose (to hide that bulge), panties (silk or satin), high heel shoes, dress, wig, and makeup. Bras often support $40- $400 breast forms, corsets or waist cinchers create curves, and padded girdles give the illusion of feminine hips and a rounded ass. Sometimes, Women will wear the clothing of a man; usually a business suit and tie, men's shoes, and maybe even a hat. Some Women bind their breasts with elasticized tension bandages, and even "pack" a dildo or any other penis-like shaped object in their jockey shorts, or under their boxers in a jock-strap. Many cut their hair in a "masculine" fashion, and use makeup to create the illusion of stubble. A few 'Drag Kings' will glue moustaches, beards, or sideburns to their faces.
Crossdressing is not necessarily practiced by men (or Women) who wish to permanently become the opposite sex. Most people simply enjoy wearing the costume and accessories of the gender they are not , in order to experience sexuality from an opposite point of view. Some people crossdress for entirely non-sexual activities. Some men crave a release from having to be in control and "all powerful". They enjoy the "feminine, powerless or helpless" softer, and more relaxed and emotionally sensitive manner that they believe Women experience. Some Women enjoy the powerful aspects of being a man in a business suit, as well as experiencing the "masculine", confident, more controlled and emotionally strong manner that they perceive men have. Some people portray the negative stereotypical appearance of the opposite sex such as the "slut" or the "sleezeball". It is not realism, or "passing" that matters, so much as having fun. Some crossdressers prefer to be as authentic or "passable" as possible, in order to enjoy the full benefits of the opposite sex. Crossdressing is simply another way that some people have of escaping the responsibility, burden, and weight that their soul carries.

Infantilism is not pedophilia, a sexual attraction to children, as many people believe. Many men and Women merely feel the need to go back to a simpler, softer, and safer time.Infantilists are incredibly sensual people. There's thick cottony diapers, creamy baby oil, silky diaper powder, Mommy's warm breasts, soft clean blankets, dairy fresh milk, constant and loving attention, and the strongest and most powerful love of their adoring mother. When is the last time you played with blocks? When is the last time you "flew" on the tire swing hanging from the maple in your mothers' garden? When is the last time you played in the sun until you fell asleep, and your parents carried you onto the porch to continue your nap? When you woke up, Mommy was smiling at you with a plate of your favorite foods, and no vegetables. Afterwards, two desserts! Adult babies have the best of both worlds. They are young enough at heart to be purely and simply happy, and old enough to understand how wonderful life can be.

Role-play or fantasy scenarios are a huge part of Professional Domination. An extremely popular scene is the medical scenario, where I can examine you as a Cruel Nurse, or a Sadistic Doctor. Enemas and catheters are commonly used in Our medical examinations. Medical sounds (increasingly sized probes of sterilised surgical stainless steel, inserted down the head of the cock via the urethra) are a quick and effective way to stimulate the bladder and prostate. Our authentic, leather covered medical table is excellent for securing the nervous patient while We administer the procedures. Many different sizes of sterile needles can be inserted into the patient's skin. Our cold stethoscopes will jolt your genitalia and get your heart racing. Very safe and realistic surgical procedures such as castration can be simulated. Electroshock therapy is still practiced in Our clinic. We can expertly use a scalpel to cut you, then professionally stitch you up with sterile sutures. Don't worry, We have dozens of clamps to "stop the bleeding". If you are in need of injections, we could safely use a needle and sterile saline solution to inoculate you, or maybe increase the size of your testicles with the same technique. Cupping and leeches are not out-of-date practices with Our medical staff. To clean you after "surgery", Our caring candy-stripers can give you a bath in the antique tub in Our studio, or if you are too "weak", maybe a sponge bath.

Some people ask Professional Dominatrixes for role-play or fantasy sessions because they need their dreams turned into reality in a safe, consensual, and authentic manner. They sometimes use the reality that We have created with them for their own masturbatory desires at home, whenever they feel the urge. Some visitors use role-play sessions with Dominants for non-sexual needs. These people have intense personal and psychological reasons, such as claiming power over past negative issues, or reliving happy memories. It would be extremely expensive and impractical for someone to hire an entire production company, when one or two good Doms could fulfill the fantasy for a reasonable fee.

Another aspect of S/M is torture. Bondage and discipline is not necessarily torturous. Many of My visitors crave extreme pain. Being a Sadist, I enjoy giving it to them. As a Professional Dominatrix, I can torture someone quite safely and consensually. I could tie them up, and lash them until they cry with one of my well-used floggers. I could apply electricity to their genitalia, or affix biting little clamps to their nipples. Many drops of hot wax followed by a bucket of ice-cold water can be fun, too. Brushing a kitchen grater or sandpaper across the skin is always effective. I personally believe that keeping someone in constant fear is much more effective than brute force. A few softly whispered words, or a bullwhip whistling past someone's ear can make the anticipation more torturous than the pain. Something as innocent as a feather repeatedly brushed across a submissive's lips, and never allowing her to scratch them with her tongue or fingers can be nicely evil. Many people enjoy torture for the sheer terror, then the following rush of adrenaline and endorphins . Some people like the feeling of being completely out of control . Some people like to "live on the edge", and this can be done safely with a Professional Dominatrix.

A few Dominatrixes allow their visitors the intimacy of "oral servitude". Myself, and any other Dominas affiliated with the Toronto Power Exchange do not service our visitors with oral-genital skin-to-skin "body worship". We permit our gentlemen to adore our spiritual presence and physical body in a manner which is clean, legal, safe, and in keeping with the proper etiquette of a Mistress/submissive relationship. An Associate of Mine has a favorite joke, where She tells a submissive to stand ten feet away from Her, and "orally" worship Her body. Of course, many gentlemen are completely tongue-tied at this point, and are totally unsure if She is serious or not. Some men are smart enough to verbally worship Her, and they are rewarded with the Mistress's attention. Occasionally, I will allow you to smell my feet, and if you are very well behaved and deserving, sample the aroma of other, more intimate parts of My body, such as My hair, neck, or underarms. Then, if you are a properly submissive gentleman, you will be allowed to touch and massage My feet. If you do a good job, you will be honored to massage My legs, My neck, and maybe even My bare back. If you can keep composed and polite, I will allow you to kiss and lick My feet. If you are still a good boy, and do not slobber too much, you may be privileged to lick and kiss My ankles, My calves, and maybe even the sensitive area behind My knees. For a final reward, you may use only your sense of smell to try to imagine what I personally, and intimately taste like.

I think no less of a kinky man who enjoys to be hung from his bound wrists and ankles to achieve sexual ecstasy, as I do of a shaman who hangs balls and fruit from Her skin with flesh-hooks to reach a state of spiritual ecstasy. Kinky sexual S/M is just as important and legitimate as "pure" spiritual S/M. Many of the practices and activities are virtually identical. Whether you want to have sensual fun, or seriously enrich your spirit, each person must do whatever their soul asks for.